November 17, 2009

Another Wedding Tips Blog

Posted in Another Wedding Tips Blog tagged at 6:27 pm by Dory

This is a great blog that has all sorts of wedding tips from a wedding insider. This is the way that Julie describes her blog on the site:

“Photographers and videographers occupy a unique niche among the professionals.We are often around from the time the bride and groom get ready to the last goodbyes at the reception. We are actually one of the very few who see the entire day. As a witness to over 1000 weddings and events, I have amassed many tips for the bride and groom to be on a variety of topics. And thanks to blogging, I now have a great way to be able to share these tips with you!”

Even after my wedding, I found it was very helpful to see her take on the wedding process. Enjoy!


July 26, 2009

Wedding Tip: Embroidered Gifts

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 12:18 am by Dory

Embroidered gifts are a wonderful, personal way to say “Thank you” to your bridesmaids, mom, sister, etc. Oftentimes, brides want to do this with the traditional monogram.

It is a wonderful idea, but it could present a big problem. What if your female friend is not married? Don’t you want a present that can be used for years later?

My suggestion: use her first name or a cute nickname. I would be willing to bet that she will not be changing her first name anytime soon!

June 22, 2009’s 75 Best Wedding Web Sites

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 10:09 am by Dory

This was a feature from a few months ago, but it was great to see a lot of my favorite planning websites all in the same place:

The 75 Best Wedding Web Sites

And here they are:


1. Fake Them Out
Many of the rhinestone pieces at are replicas of diamonds worn by A-list divas like Halle, Heidi, and Nicole.

2. Buy Bargain Baubles
The deals at are phenomenal—we found an 18K gold multistrand gemstone necklace for just $35.99!

3. Snag Some Shoes
White shoes rule at, which carries high-end designers, as well as more affordable brands (Dyeables, Touch Ups).

4. Top Your Tresses
Satisfy your inner princess with hair jewelry from, home of classic and modern styles.

5. Look for Lingerie
When mining for wedding day unmentionables (bras, bustiers, shapewear), go to—good selection, good prices.


6. Master an Updo
Learn how to do your own do at, which offers video tutorials. Hit the “Holiday Hairstyles” tab for formal looks ranging from chic chignons to romantic waves.

7. Find Your Faves
Your #1 lipstick has gone AWOL from store shelves? Don’t panic—hit, which carries nearly 200 brands, including hard-to-find items.

8. Enhance Your Eyes
Find out how to do your big-day makeup at; the “Insider Secrets” tab has how-to videos galore.

9. Design a Fragrance
At, brides can create custom blends of fruits, flowers, and spices. One-third of an ounce costs just $10.


10. Dress Your Maids
At, the easy to use dress guide lets you search the collection by color, length, neckline, silhouette, and fabric.

11. School Your Man
Written from a man’s perspective, offers straight talk (and videos) on planning, clothes, guys’ duties, and speechmaking.

12. Garb the Flower Girl
Ethereal and elegant, the flower-girl dresses at come with satin bows, organza ruffles, and loads of charm.


13. Estimate the Bills
To help you plan your expenses, use the “Weddings” section of, which lists price ranges for goods and services from musicians to ice sculptures.

14. Compare Costs
Plug in your zip code at to find out the average budget for “I do’s” in your specific area.

15. Track Your Digits
Once you’ve figured out a budget, use to not only create spreadsheets but also share them online with your fiancé and parents.

16. Bid for Bargains
Don’t forget for finds like barely worn headpieces and lace tablecloths.

17. Do It Yourself
Need to make a guest book, craft a favor bag, or set up an iPod playlist? has advice from crafty brides and links to experts’ Web sites.


18. Make a Cake
From baking pans to sugar daisies, sells everything you need to raise the wedding cake to a piece of art.

19. Sweeten Things Up
Pick your favorite posy at, where the candy flowers include orchids, roses, and lilies.

20. Tailor a Topper
Crown your cake with your names scrawled inside a wire heart from

21. Bejewel the Cake
Top the tiers with a cake crown from—and find a match for you, too!

22. Customize a Cookie
On the dessert table, offer these initial cookies from, which specializes in custom treats.

23. Get Specifics
Every recipe at is accompanied by a list of the exact pans and tools needed to create a masterpiece.


24. Choose Readings
The “Planning” section of lists popular passages plucked from Scripture, literature, and poetry.

25. Ordain a Buddy
Want someone special to officiate at your wedding? Send ’em to (Universal Life Church) to apply.

26. Find an Officiant
Stop by (the National Association of Wedding Officiants) to find a religious or secular authority to perform the service.

27. Write the Words
Get inspiration at, which offers examples from traditional to interfaith to celebrity (Elvis and Priscilla!).


28. Bring on the Bows has ribbons in every color, fabric, and width, some customizable with a personal design.

29. Hire a Scribe
Find a calligrapher in your area through the professional group

30. Reinvent the Vase
At playful prints transform galvanized buckets into chic containers for wine and flowers.


31. Value the Variety
A limited budget’s BFF: It has a festive selection of favors from fans (12 for $3.49) to mint tins (12 for $14.99).

32. Have It Your Way
At, you can pick out a favor (matchbooks), decide on a color (gold), then choose a font (Bickham Script). Sweet.

33. Find a Goodie is the place for guest giveaways. Edible, seasonal, thematic—it’s got dozens of choices.

34. Decorate Your Day
Think of as your one-click supply source for DIY projects, with all the necessities for making favors, menus, centerpieces, and more.

35. Go Organic
Considering candles? Nix paraffin for nontoxic soy options sold through

36. Box It Up
Even a cup of jelly beans looks fancy packed in an elegant vellum bag or pretty organza box from


37. Buy Arrangements
Hydrangeas, calla lilies, and sunflowers—oh, my! For centerpieces and bouquets at bargain prices, click on

38. Go Bulk
Purchasing roses in bulk is a smart way to save. offers deep discounts.

39. Know Your Limits
Is doing your own arrangements right for you? Find out with the “Wedding Flowers” quiz at, which sells blooms at cut-rate prices.

40. Try a Topiary
Create an enchanted forest at your reception via, where you can find decorative branches and wreaths, as well as topiaries and lighting.


41. Green the Dish
An eco alternative to landfillloving Styrofoam, dishes are made from bamboo and biodegrade in four to six months.

42. Make a Wine Run
Raise your glass to, where each bottle is vetted by a team of wine pros and discounted with a money-back guarantee.

43. Customize Your Cuppa
Sugar cubes iced with your initial sweeten your reception guests’ after-dinner tea;

44. Seek a Caterer
Click “Caterers” at to find gastronomic experts by location. (You can even flag picks for future reference.) Look for other vendors here, too, and read the “Tips” section before your interviews.

45. Jazz up the Drinks
Personalize cocktails with tiny custom flags from


46. Launch a Web Site
Announce events, manage RSVPs, even poll guests for free at

47. Be Original chronicles goth-a-billy updos, baby-blue tuxes, and other think-outside-the-white-wedding-box ideas.

48. Go Eco offers DIY ideas (where to book an eco venue; how to use vintage milk bottles for vases) and links to green-thinking vendors.

49. Get Ideas has photos and ideas from reallife theme weddings like “Sweet Citrus” and “Asian Fusion.”

50. Choose Your Hues
Enter the URL of any image (like a pic from your reception hall’s Web site) and will generate a complementary color palette.


51. Study the Law lists wedding-license regulations for all 50 states.

52. Take his Name
Change your name through, which completes forms online and provides detailed instructions for filing.

53. Ponder the Pre-nup makes a hard subject easier, with tips on how to talk the talk effectively with your fiancé.


54. Learn to Dance
Master your first-dance moves by taking lessons; go to’s directory for a studio near you, or practice your cha-cha at home with the site’s online lessons.

55. Make a Mix
Download iTunes at, then snag songs for 99 cents a pop. Search “wedding essentials,” then click “iTunes Essentials: Wedding Essentials” (top right) for hundreds of possibilities.

56. Pick a DJ or Dance offers a national DJ directory, plus suggestions for father-daughter and mother-son dances.

57. Bag a Band
Jazz? Bluegrass? Motown? lets brides seek bands by zip code. (Bonus: Many listings come with reviews from past clients.)


58. Gather Your Tools’s wedding book application lets you share event info, photos, registry links—it even includes a countdown clock.

59.Rent Your Stuff
Tables, china, lighting, Flooring—at you’ll find all the basics under one virtual roof. (Yes, they have tents, too.)

60. Do the Seating
Kind of like “Musical Chairs: Wedding Edition”: You can drag and drop guest names, tables, and chairs anywhere on the screen at

61. Look for Linens has a huge selection of linens, plus boffo decorating advice (how to set a modern/country/seasonal table), useful for a bride planning her first big celebration.

62. Set Up a Booth will rent you a photo booth (nationwide), operate it throughout your wedding, and take it away after the last goofy group shot.

63. Secure a Location
At, search for party sites by city or zip code. Watch videos of some of the spaces, especially helpful when planning an out-of-town wedding.

64. Scope Out Tents
Know the difference between clearspan and pole tents? You will once you’ve checked out

65. Map the Route helps transform your ceremony and reception maps into something elegant enough to pair with your invitations.


66. Hire a Lensman
At the Professional Photographers of America’s official site (, look up pros in your area, then check out the portfolios on their Web sites.

67. Get Expert Tips
What’s the best way to incorporate pets into your wedding photos? That question and many others are revealed at, the online magazine of the Wedding Photojournalist Association.

68. Share Your Photos
Rent digital cameras for your reception tables at Afterward, the company will upload the photos to its site so you can share.


69. Check Things Off
Choose your favorite kitchen and bathroom items—and manage the guest list, seating plan, and budget—at

70. Make It Easier
Instead of registering in a half-dozen shops, sign up at one: allows brides to select gifts from any store in the world with its oneregistry-fits-all function.

71. Give Back
At, you can link to stores like Target and REI , which will donate a percentage of guests’ gift purchases to your favorite charitable cause.


72. Find the Words
At, order invitations (Crane & Co., Kate Spade) and get an etiquette specialist’s help for free!

73. Nail the Goods
Choose from a wide variety of affordable, ready-to-order items or design your own at

74. Create a Stamp
Upload a graphic detail from your invitation to you’ll receive sheets of customized U.S. postal stamps to stick on your envelopes.

75. Cut Card Costs sells more than 100 invites for less than a dollar each. (Use their template to print cards.)

June 17, 2009

My Timeline

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , at 3:04 pm by Dory

I absolutely live on lists (as if you can’t tell from some of my earlier posts). Because of this, I had to have not only about 20 lists for the Big Day, but I had to have a timeline. Some brides make these cutsie and colorful like this one:

Cute, right? By the time we got around to our timeline, I was so exhausted with all the projects, I just had to come up with an actual timeline. Here is how ours was:

Tucker-Doyle Timeline

Friday 10 AM

Farmington Walkthrough:

Tim and Dory and all the stuff

4:45 PM

Tim, Dory, JoP, Photographer arrive

5:00 PM

Rehearsal at Farmington

6:30 PM

Rehearsal Dinner at Wild Greens

Saturday 1 PM

Bride and Bridesmaids get ready in Room 301:

Dory, Kathleen, Ashley T., Ashley M.

2:00 PM

Photographer arrives

Dory puts dress on:

Need Elly and Pat

2:30 PM

Group pictures:

Tim, Dory, Kathleen, Ashley T, Ashley M, Kevin, Drew, Nick, Elly, Bill, Pat, Tom, Josh, Tee, UD, Alan, Tony

3:00-4:00 PM

Individual pictures:

Tim and Dory

4:30 PM

Ketubah ceremony (Jefferson Room)

Tim, Dory, Kathleen, Ashley T, Ashley M, Kevin, Drew, Nick, Elly, Bill, Pat, Tom, Josh, Tee, UD, Alan, Tony

5:00 PM


5:20-6:00 PM

Cocktails in Ballroom

Bridal party and family to Jefferson Room to relax and eat (small bar in Jefferson Room)

6:00 PM

Ask guests to be seated

6:05 PM

Bridal party enters to “Enter Sandman”

6:07 PM

First Dance to Israel Kamakawiwo Ole’s “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”

6:12 PM

Welcome by Tucker

6:15 PM

Stations open for dinner

7:15 PM

Toast by Kevin (Best Man)

7:20 PM

Cake cutting (saving top layer)

7:23 PM

Father/Daughter dance to “What a Wonderful World”

Mother/Son dance to “Wonderful Tonight”

10:30 PM

Garter toss in Ballroom

Bars close

10:35 PM

Bouquet toss in Jefferson Room

Exit with sparklers and golf cart

May 29, 2009

Must Take Wedding Pictures: Getting Ready / Things I Love: Cramer Photography)

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , at 4:39 am by Dory

We hired an amazing photographer for our wedding, and I have never regretted it a day. She was well worth the money we spent, even after we received only the first 2 pictures. Her name is Sarah Cramer Shields (she got married 2 weeks after our wedding) of Cramer Photography. Not only was she our photographer, but she was our day-of guide for all things wedding. Throughout the day, she would grab either my husband or I and tell us little tricks or hints, like “Take down your bra straps so you don’t get red lines in the pictures.” Or “Eat something!” And she would make me eat. Not even my mom could do that.

Now, I knew how amazing she was, and I knew I didn’t need to worry a bit about our photography. That being said, I still had a few set pictures I wanted to take. After all, you don’t get hooked to The Knot message boards for almost a year and  a half and NOT have a list of Must Take Pictures.

Sarah was great. She memorized this list, knew when and where to take the pictures, got them done, and then took amazing other ones! This past weekend at the beach, we saw a bridal party take wedding pictures for almost 2 hours. And they were just the formal pictures. Our formals took all of 10 minutes, and we got them all! This is the mark of a true professional.

So here is my list of Must Take Pictures, along with the pictures Sarah took:


  • Bride doing makeup/fixing hair in mirrortimanddorywedding-0067
  • Bride’s gown hanging in windowtimanddorywedding-0058
  • Something old, new, borrowed, bluetimanddorywedding-0026timanddorywedding-0025
  • Detailed shots of the bride’s and bridesmaids’ bouquetstimanddorywedding-0598timanddoryweddingkyle-0039
  • Candid shots of the girls getting dressedtimanddorywedding-0096timanddoryweddingkyle-0048
  • Mother helping the bride with one last detail, such as the veiltimanddorywedding-0049
  • Father seeing bride in gowntimanddorywedding-0164
  • Bride with parents, siblings, grandfathertimanddorywedding-0126timanddoryweddingkyle-0027


  • Groom and groomsmen putting on boutonnierestimanddoryweddingkyle-0026
  • Groom and groomsmen clinking beers/drinkstimanddoryweddingkyle-0016

May 26, 2009

Wedding Must Haves

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , at 5:09 pm by Dory

Before my wedding, I lived on lists: To Do lists, To Buy lists, Grocery Store lists, Work lists, Packing lists, etc. You get the picture. My life was a living legal pad that I kept glued to my side. I still managed to forget things, but when it came down to the wedding, I had everything I needed.

In an earlier comment, Ashley asked if I would post my lists: timelines, DIY things, music lists… and so here is the start. This is the list of things that I NEEDED to bring to the wedding:


Unity candles (2 tapers, 1 pillar)

Unity candle holders (3 total)



Ketubah frame

Pen for Ketubah (same as guest book pen)

Flowers for hearth (2 buckets)

Candles for hearth (10-15 from Farmington)

Written ceremony

Wedding rings

Ring bowl

Ceremony programs (150-200)


Bridal bouquet

Pearls for bouquet

Bridesmaids bouquets (3)

Throw bouquet

Tim’s boutonniere

GM boutonnieres (3)

Father boutonnieres (2)

Usher boutonnieres (5)

Rose petals for cake table and misc decoration


Bridal cake

Cake plateau (Farmington provides)

Groom’s cake

Cake knife

Cake server (Farmington provides)

Cake topper

Figurine for cake table

Cake holder (for top of cake)

Bride’s Attire



Garters (2)

Strapless bra


Engagement ring

Pearl necklace


Table number postcards

Table number holders

Message marbles

9 votives per table (Farmington provides)

Kids’ placemats where appropriate

Kids’ coloring book

Kids’ crayons

Picture website cards at each seat


Pictures of family weddings

Guest book

Guest book pen

Sign for guest book

Candy jars

Candy scoops

Candy bags with monogram sticker

Candy to fill

Sign for candy buffet

Champagne glasses

Sparklers for send-off

To Give Out/ Gifts

Timetable for wedding party, coordinator, band

Bridesmaid gifts (3)

Bags with names

Makeup bag


Thank you cards

Groomsmen gifts (3)



Parents’ gifts (2)


Usher gifts (5)

Individual pictures

Getting Ready

Hair dryer

Flat iron

Curling iron

Hair ties



Hand lotion

Foot lotion


Emergency Kit



Lactose medicine

Anti-diarrhea medicine


Contact solution

Eye drops

White thread

Black thread


Safety pins

Hem tape




Hair spray

Emery board







Duct tape


Bobby pins

Cotton balls


Makeup remover

Lint brush

Nail polish

Spot remover

Static-cling spray

For Pictures



Thank You parasol

And of course, I also needed to have a list of the things that our parents needed to pack up for us and bring home. Here they are:

From Ceremony

Unity candles (2 tapers, 1 pillar)

Unity candle holders (3 total)

Ketubah in frame

Flowers from hearth (2 total)

Ring bowl

Extra ceremony programs


Bridal bouquet

Pearls from bouquet

Tim’s boutonniere


Top tier of cake (in box)

Cake knife

Cake topper

Figurine from cake table

Extras of cake

Bride’s Attire

(Leaves with the bride)


Table number postcards

Table number holders

Message marbles

Extra kids’ placemats

Extra kids’ coloring books

Extra crayons

Extra picture website cards


Pictures of family weddings

Guest book

Guest book pen

Sign for guest book

Candy jars

Candy scoops

Extra candy

Extra candy bags

Sign for candy buffet

Message marbles

Champagne glasses

Extra sparklers

From Getting Ready (Room 301)

Hair dryer

Flat iron

Curling iron

Hair ties



Hand lotion

Foot lotion


Emergency Kit

From Pictures



Thank You parasol


Gifts and cards

If you have anything else to add, put it in the comment section. I know we have readers, and I would love to get a ton of comments for these posts!

May 3, 2009

How to Get Your College Mascot to Appear at Your Wedding

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 4:16 pm by Dory


Throughout our wedding, I wanted to have a few surprises for my husband. One of them was to get the Hokie Bird to appear at our wedding. Both of us went to Virginia Tech, and our college is such an important part of our lives together.

We had heard from a friend that the Hokie Bird can appear at weddings, but there were rumors that you needed to “know someone” to get him. I decided to at least try. I looked on the VT Athletic Department website contact page under Marketing and Promotions, and found a number through that.


It took a couple of days to get a call back, which is totally understandable. This department does have a lot to do, after all!


Once I talked to someone from the department, they temporarily put our wedding on the schedule, and then called me back in a couple weeks when they knew the student could actually come. timanddorywedding-1060

And it was really cheap! $200 plus gas. And all the money went directly to the student. I loved that part of it.


This might not work for all sports teams, but the moral of this story is… TRY! You never know until you ask. And for us, it was incredible!


April 17, 2009

Wedding Advice

Posted in Uncategorized tagged at 6:39 pm by Dory

Right before my wedding, I got some wonderful advice from the girls on The Knot who were married in March 2009. I thought I would pass some of their wedding day thoughts on to all my readers.
As I’m rereading these words of wisdom, I realize how hard it is to really remember everything, as the day flies by. I will dedicate an entire post to my wedding recap.

“My one piece of advice is to take some time out for your and your new husband. Everyone is going to want to kiss and hug on you, take pictures with you, etc. You don’t want to miss out on a moment that you can look into your husband’s eyes and just exhale. [Dear Husband] and I had our moment as we were waiting for all of our guests to leave the sanctuary so we could reenter and take pics.” -jerriesgirl

“My little bit of wedding day advice is that if you’re second guessing your decision to take photos ahead of time…don’t. It honestly was the best decision Greg and I could have ever made. Especially if you’re getting married at the reception venue, or don’t have a lot of time inbetween the ceremony and cocktail hour… Enjoy yourselves, and no matter what, the show will go on, so don’t get worked up over things you can’t control.” -fivelette

“Have safety pins just in case. Someone stepped on the lace part of my bustle and it ripped out from the bustle so I was dragging lace around. We used three safety pins to try to hold it up but that didn’t keep it up very well. We probably needed more like six.” – timmysgal1

“Make sure you enjoy the reception! Guests will grab you every few seconds to congratulate you! When a song I really liked came on, I’d go out and dance. I am so glad we did because our photographer took some awesome pictures of all of us having fun! It makes for a pretty boring reception if the bride and groom are just sitting down chatting. :)” -ErikaandChris32009

“Bring your sense of humor. Things will go wrong and it’s OK! The aisle runner that I painted almost didn’t get put down. The lights on our getaway Model A car blew a fuse. We sat for 20 minutes at a gas station with the driver trying to figure out where the fuse was. Honestly, it gave us time to relax and it was nice.” -Janda309

“Truly enjoy yourselves, and stick by your husband…it goes by wayyy too fast!! Also, the week of the wedding I had emailed my photographer about sneaking outside during the reception to get some shots of just us. This was the best decison EVER! We had a blast taking pictures!! And it was fun to just be us…no one was around…a few people watched but that was it.” -ashleymvee

“We are not kidding when we say it goes by really fast!” -lissa5125

“If you are planning an unveiling before the ceremony have someone hang out with your FI. I felt horrible, but H was waiting for about 20 minutes for me all by himself. By the time we saw each other he was so nervous.” -cincyGirl1980

January 21, 2009

The Start of BrideSaver!

Posted in Uncategorized tagged at 4:22 pm by Dory

While planning my own wedding, I knew that I wanted a country club wedding on a shoestring budget. In the year-and-a-half of planning, I constantly tried to find the best deals. Sometimes that meant looking for the cheapest price, and sometimes it had to do with making it DIY-style.

My whole idea behind BrideSaver is to help brides who are just like me: those who are looking to have an amazing wedding on a budget. Instead of having to go out and search for the best place to buy candles or the greatest deal for a wedding dress, brides can just visit BrideSaver, and the work is already done!

If you have any ideas for future BrideSaver posts, please let me know!